Hospice Care for the Dying and the
Caregiver
Not too long ago an Elder at our church asked
me to visit a parishioner because her husband, the primary
caregiver, was concerned about the change in his wife’s behavior
for taking medications and eating. She was spitting out the
medications and had stopped eating. As acute care nurses, the goal
is to provide optimal care that increases the quality of life for
our patients. I discussed with him various ways to give
medications, her favorite foods, and different ways to keep her
comfortable. When she passed away three day later, I wondered what
I could have done differently or better. I was haunted by
this encounter for quite some time.
As a currently practicing hospice nurse, I now
understand that this lovely lady was in the last stages of the
dying process, a significant decline in life functions toward her
transition to her heavenly reward. As acute care nurses we are so
focused on assisting people to get better, we miss the various
indications of the body shutting down, if we know them at all.
Below is a list of signs and symptoms of the last stages of the
dying process.
- Decrease in the need for food or drink
- Spitting out food/medications, or pocketing
them in cheeks
- Loss of leg movement and change in the color
of feet and legs
- Increase in sleep with increasing difficulty
in arousal
- Voice weakness and decreased vocalizations
- Increased restlessness, pull/picking at
clothing and bedding
- Periods of apnea when resting (10-20 seconds
is common)
- Decreased urinary output/incontinence
- Increased confusion about familiar things and
persons
- Decreased hearing or vision with hearing being
the last sense to go.
It is optimal to bring hospice support in as
soon as the person or designated responsible person decides
treatments are futile. Additionally if the dying person will not go
to the hospital/ER any longer, has frequent infections, or has one
of these signs or symptoms, it is time to prepare for the death of
the person. Hospice nurses can detect these signs and
symptoms quickly and assist in helping with the comfort of the
person and the family. The hospice team can assist in many areas of
care including bathing, legal paperwork, listening to the family,
and offering spiritual help. Different medications can be ordered
and effective equipment can be put into place for patient comfort
and ease of care. The beauty of hospice in America, is that the
philosophy of care can be accomplished in private homes, health
care facilities or hospice houses. Teaching is the first and
foremost role of the nurse so that the primary caregiver can be
confident in the care and the care receiver can be made as
comfortable as possible.
Even though my suggestions for my parishioner
and her husband were well founded and positive, I still grieve
because I could have helped to arranged for hospice service for
this woman and her family in her last days. Now as I talk to
families, I start teaching about the dying process and the
wonderful end-of-life care delivered by hospice team members.
Hope Knight RN, MS, Parish Nurse
Parish Nurse District Representative for
Oklahoma